Ex-Factor

I'm going to veer a little off the path with the whole fairytale theme...this just had to be done.

Many of you are familiar with Lauryn Hill's song "Ex-Factor"...and for those of you who are unfamiliar with it (and have obviously lived in a cave for the last decade) it's a beautiful ballad detailing the back and forth; on again, off again relationship with an ex. I love this song for so many reasons, the most obvious being that I can undoubtedly relate to every word of this song.

As you previously read I did the back and forth, break up just to make up thing (and to an extent you wouldn't believe) and I eventually learned that that activity is simply unhealthy. The constant emotional rollercoaster was so damaging to my spirit and my aura. Like Lauryn said, "...this is crazy." and I was beginning to really feel crazy. Every time I left or threatened to leave my dearest Prince Charming he would plead his case, or rather he'd charm his way back in and promise me the world and the false hope of becoming a new person. Ha! Who was he kidding?! Well, I guess he was kidding me, huh? I fell for it one too many times. I learned eventually (*whispers quick prayer thanking God*).

Moral of the story: Don't hold on to something that is damaging to your spirit. If you have to really put up a fight just for it to work, chances are it will never work. "It could all be so simple..."

Me and the Fourty Thieves...

Thieves, yes, these men were thieves!  They were either trying to steal what was in my panties, my heart, or my time. And there were probably 40 or more of them! Ha! Being single again and not looking to settle down any time soon I became a serial dater. I don't think I can give an accurate count of how many men I was dating at one time, but they were all just "things" to pass the time away. I couldn't take any of them serious...I mean, there was one (hope he isn't reading this...if so, oh well.) who took me to a rather expensive restaurant and wanted to flex so he tells me order whatever I want [not knowing that I CAN EAT]...appetizers, drinks, dinner, and dessert...the works! The bill comes and this guy spent about a good 10 minutes trying to calculate everything in his head, claiming they messed something up, and mumbling until finally I asked him would he like for me to pay. That was a stab in his side. He immediately pulled out his wallet and paid the bill. I'm guessing he missed one, maybe two, bill payments that month all in the name of stunting. Clown.  To impress me you don't have to spend ridiculous amounts of money on food! Be a gentleman, offer me intelligent conversation, make me laugh, and come up with something other than dinner & a movie for a date...that will impress me, a little. Another one I ran into had to be the most boring person on Earth. I mean this guy was so uninteresting and dull that I sat there and texted and bbm'd throughout the entire meal.  That was rude, but any type of manners I had went out the window with the bullshit he was talking about. Anyway, I thought I was doing as a single person should, but at the end of the dates I always felt like it was a waste of time.  I could have easily taken myself to dinner and the movies and had a better time. Something had to give.........

PAUSE...

Now, don't start thinking this is a long story of making up and breaking up with Prince Not So Charming. That's not the case AT ALL. You will soon be introduced to most, not all, of the suitors and the few lovers who were never loved. Lord knows I got some stories to tell! I have ran into some court jesters, some noble men, and some downright douchebags! But the journey has been entertaining and, I can't lie, kinda fun. 

Not Quite The Fairytale...The Sequel

Here I was again with my Prince Not So Charming. After him professing his undying love, promising me everything from the world to the heavens above, and of course begging...he had me back. I must admit he put a spell on me! I'm talking about this man had my heart wrapped around his finger and when he tugged he somehow, perhaps magically, had control of my whole being. So here we are, back like cooked crack, stronger than ever. Things were beautiful...for a while. Slowly, but surely, my Prince was turning back into a frog. He was far from ugly physically, but his actions made him something detestable. I found myself wondering how the hell I ended up back HERE again! I couldn't figure out why or where things went wrong. I don't know what, but something woke me up and all I knew was that I didn't deserve it. I mean, HELL, my Daddy treated me like 'The Little Princess'...wined and dined me, took me on trips, gave me my first experience of vacationing out of the country, spoiled me with gifts, told me I was beautiful, told me he loved me every day so I KNEW I deserved better! I wasn't about to go from being the Princess to being the misused, abused, sad, and lonely Cinderella...that shit was backwards! So, here we go again...no happy ending.

Portuguese Love Teena Marie Unplugged

IN HONOR OF THE LATE, GREAT TEENA MARIE...RIP

"...you knew that you felt good to me, from the first kiss to

last, I'm trembling. You made love to me like no other man,

and if you please I'd like to go back there again...killing me

with kisses oh so tenderly...you make love like, you make

love FOREVER..."

To be a woman who has ever felt the emotion of those words

is to be a lucky woman.

Rick Ross - Play Your Part ft. Wale, Meek Mill & Chester French

THIS SONG RIGHT HERE...YESSS!

WHEN YOU'RE SINGLE THE MOST IMPORTANT THING

YOU CAN LEARN IS TO PLAY YOUR PART. PERIOD.

I Am Lion[ess] Hear Me Roar

LEO goes with Aries, Sagittarius, Gemini and Libra (best match is Pisces).

Leos are true romantics and go to great lengths to passionately satisfy their mates. In love, Leos are very passionate and loving. Leos, being very passionate, must remember that judgment in romantic matters is not necessarily reliable, emotional involvement many times allows the heart to rule the head. Unless the head and heart are in unison, fate may teach a hard lesson to tolerate.

Best Match For Leo Is Aries
Aries has a fiery personality, and can be quite head strong. This can make them hard to match with other people, but also make them very passionate with some. Leo and Aries are perhaps the best of all matches, but if things go wrong and one betrays the other, it can get explosively ugly!